Your Ultimate Guide To Female Masturbation
And How You Can Create A Safe Space To Do So!
"Masturbation"—for a long time this word has been associated with guys, but not anymore. Over the past few years, mainly due to quarantine, many women have opened up about how they started taking matters into their own hands and have never looked back since. It’s safe to say that female masturbation has become a revolutionary topic as women from all across the globe, including India, are forgoing the guilt and are no longer afraid to share their thoughts (and methods) on the subject. If you're new to this topic and want to get off to a good start, you've come to the right place. Continue reading to find out more about female masturbation and how you can take control of your pleasure.
What Is Masturbation?
Many people are aware of the term. It is used to describe an act where people touch their own bodies for sexual pleasure. While almost everyone knows the meaning, it’s important to note that self pleasure may differ from person to person. It all depends on what makes you feel good. For years, this act has been frowned upon, but now, thanks to research and studies available online, there is a lot of evidence that proves that masturbation has plenty of health benefits for both men and women. Yes, you read that right! Achieving an orgasm is said to release a flood of hormones, through the body, like:
Endorphins: This hormone is known to reduce pain
Serotonin: Aids in mood regulation and stress reduction
This results in numerous overall benefits like increased relaxation, deep sleep, reduced stress, relieved headaches, and, believe it or not, even an improved sex life, while also leaving you feeling sexually empowered.
What Makes Female Masturbation Unique?
While anatomy is one of the major differences, the other happens to be pleasure, or orgasms. Unlike what patriarchy dictates, women don’t necessarily need to insert penile objects into the vagina to achieve an orgasm. Even just rubbing the crotch, labia, and clitoris can provide pleasure. For others, fondling breasts and nipples may help.
Sexual gratification is another factor that separates men and women. In the case of men, ejaculation is necessary, and without it, there is a lack of satisfaction. Aside from satisfaction, not ejaculating can even be painful for a guy as it can lead to enlarged testes, commonly known as “blue balls”. For a woman, however, orgasm is not a must. As compared to men, women take far longer to orgasm but have the capacity to achieve multiple orgasms in the same act.
How To Create A Safe Place At Home
Creating a safe place that makes you feel comfortable adds to the experience. If you truly want to achieve pleasure, here are a few tips to keep in mind.
1. Don’t Judge
Yes, there’s a lot of criticism on this topic, but at the end of the day, it’s your body, and you get to decide what's right for it. The great thing about masturbation is that you can let your fantasies flow. You don’t need to tell anyone what you’re thinking about, so don’t be afraid to let your imagination run wild.
2. Lock Your Door
This may seem obvious, but trust us, unless you live alone, it is best to keep your door locked to avoid any uninvited guests. Keep in mind, though, that this is not about secrecy but rather privacy.
3. Find The Right Stimulator
For many women, watching porn is a great way to get in the mood, be it through video or through books. Don’t be afraid to explore different genres to find what works best for you.
4. Take Your Time
The beauty of masturbation is that you can take as much time as you need. Use this time to explore your body to find out what feels good, rather than going from zero to vagina.
How Is This Topic Changing In India
In our country, this has been a taboo topic for decades and, in some parts, still is. But the good news is that mainstream media and Indian filmmakers are shedding light on this once-hushed-up topic. Many movies released in the past decade have educated the masses by depicting women taking control of their sexuality. Aside from this, there are also plenty of influencers and doctors openly talking about the health benefits of female masturbation on various social media platforms.
When it comes to finding the right toys, there are many homegrown brands that offer toys specially designed for women to achieve maximum pleasure. Brands like MyMuse and IMBesharam aim to bridge the pleasure gap in the country by providing a range of vibrators that cater to outside, inside, or both pleasures. Sangya Project is another brand that aims at creating a space for destigmatisation and providing kink-affirmative education while also detailing the varied perspectives, stories, and experiences of people.
It’s safe to say that masturbation, particularly female masturbation, has plenty of health benefits, be it mental, physical, or emotional. So the next time you find yourself alone at home, and a little turned on, go ahead and use this time to explore yourself. Whether you choose to take matters into your own hands or take a little help from a few toys, just know that it is a completely natural act that needn’t have any shame attached to it.
References:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0361684313514855
