10 pro tips to ace multiple orgasms
One isn’t enough? Here’s how you can achieve multiple orgasms
Let’s just admit that achieving an orgasm, especially if you’re one with a vagina, isn’t as hunky dory as they show it on TV. You know the kind where sexual tension is high and you and your partner are in sync –– so in sync that you climax together! While a female orgasm isn’t a myth, it does take a whole lot of effort and practice (and a certain amount of comfort level) to get there. And once you do, it really isn’t enough! So are multiple orgasms a fictional myth or can you actually have three, four, or five times the fun. Here’s your ultimate guide to orgasms and how to ace them multiple times!
WHAT EXACTLY IS A MULTIPLE ORGASM?
Calling it as it is, a multiple orgasm is one where you climax a couple of times in just one sexy session. It can either happen over a short period of time, or occur within a few minutes of each other. In all honesty, the number of orgasms one can achieve varies from person to person. It is all dependent on your body, preferences, what you like, and how well you know your body.
CAN EVERYONE WITH A VAGINA HAVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS?
Yes. If you have a vagina and a clitoris you are eligible to achieve multiple orgasms. This is because the ‘refractory period’ aka the period after an orgasm till you can feel aroused again is pretty short, in comparison with your penis owning partners.
Orgasms involve a lot more biology than one would think. Orgasms cause an increase in circulation, heart rate, breath rate, and spasms. The refractory period basically allows your body to calm down and come back to its normal state. Ironically, those with penises have a longer refractory period which can last anywhere between several minutes to a full day (or even longer if they’re older).
Brace yourselves for the multiple ‘O’ –– here are 10 tips to ace multiple orgasms.
#1 – START WITH ONE
If you haven’t mastered the art of achieving at least one orgasm, that’s where you need to start. A lot of people with vaginas due have issues orgasming, which can vary from person to person. Get out of your head and understand why you aren’t ‘coming’ –– it can be stress related, a result of poor body image, or even a block in communication with your partner. Start with a little bit of clitoral stimulation, as this seems to be the best way forward.
#2 – STIMULATE AWAY
After you’ve orgasmed the first time, it’s time to switch things up! If you’re still sensitive around your clitoris, try a different form of stimulation. Maybe your other erogenous zones? Monica from FRIENDS already established 7 zones, so get creative and explore.
#3 – DON’T STRESS TOO MUCH
When you put too much pressure on yourself to climax, it tends to send your orgasm running the opposite direction. Don’t go in with the intention of orgasming multiple times –– relax and have fun, and go with the flow. It’s all about the pleasure and isn’t about achieving a set goal!
#4 – PELVIC FLOOR MUSCLES FTW
Take advantage of your pelvic floor muscles during sex. Strengthening these muscles can enhance sexual pleasure and leave you with an orgasm (or more). Follow this pelvic floor routine to do so!
#5 – YOUR BREATH IS KEY
Sex is a form of exercises, so there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be watching your breath when doing so. A lot of people tend to subconsciously hold their breath during sex –– don’t! Concentrate on your breath –– breathe slowly as you come close to orgasming. This’ll help release your pelvic floor muscles, resulting in another orgasm.
#6 – SWITCH UP YOUR POSITIONS
If you don’t want to stick to the same sex routine after the first orgasm, try switching things up. While there is no Holy Grail to what works (as it is an individual preference), mix it up by trying out different sex positions.
#7 – GET NAUGHTY WITH YOUR HANDS
Don’t hold back, if you feel like you can achieve it yourself take matters into your own hands. Masturbation when you’re with your partner doesn’t dilute the entire experience. As a matter of fact, it might be the key thing you need to get your multiple orgasms going. Plus, it could be a turn on for your partner too!
#8 – PLAY TIME
Sex toys and lubricants will be your best friends! A great way to get things on the second time is to make use of a vibrator or a dildo or even just a little bit of lube. This is great for those where clitoral stimulation plays an important role in orgasming.
#9 – CREATE SEXUAL TENSION
This goes without saying –– the excitement might have died down after the first big ‘O’, so you need to create a whole new bag of tension. This buildup arouses the body after it relaxes for the first time. So take a breather and continue the process again!
#10 – GIVE IMPORTANCE TO THE TRIPLETS
In this case, do not ignore the breasts and butt! While you’re waiting during the refractory period, ask your partner to keep you aroused by playing with your breasts and other zones. Since your clitoris is a little sensitive after an orgasm, diving back in isn’t quite an option for many. Keep the heat going –– remember you need to maintain your arousal state, just so that you don’t have to take it from the top again.